Chely Wright and her fiancee Lauren Blitzer are gearing up to exchange vows at their upcoming wedding, which is set to take place this August in Connecticut, where the state recognizes same-sex marriage. The couple is looking forward to sticking to tradition on many of the day's details, including the dress.

"It will definitely be a wedding dress. When two women get married, you want the dresses to coordinate, so we've been showing pictures to each other," Wright tells PEOPLE, who says that Blitzer will also be wearing white on the special day. "We're not wearing veils -- we both like our hair too much!" she adds.

Rather than having a live band play during the reception, Wright and Blitzer have decided to go with a deejay to keep the party going.

"Bands at weddings make me nervous," says Wright. "Sometimes they're not great, and I'd be going, 'Ugh, that doesn't sound right.' So we're going to play all the campiest, cheesiest songs you can think of, [like] 'Vogue' [and] 'You Shook Me All Night Long.'"

The celebration will feature barbecue from New York's Blue Smoke, which Wright quickly points out was her bride-to-be's idea, as Wright doesn't eat meat.

The couple is set to say "I do" on August 20 at Blitzer's aunt's home in Connecticut in front of approximately 200 guests. Because Blitzer is Jewish and Wright is Christian, their outdoor nuptials will be performed by both a rabbi and a reverend.

Wright and Blitzer, who's an activist for the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender communities, met two weeks after the singer revealed to the world that she was a lesbian. Wright and Blitzer currently reside in New York City.